That’s what I keep reminding myself daily. When I get angry, when I’m frustrated, or when things simply don’t go my way, I count to 10 (not 3 or even 5; I need more time than that…lol) and say aloud, “Life is too short to dwell on things that do not matter and on things I cannot change.” If I can change it, then how is anger going to help? One must have a clear and focused mind to succeed.
Why be angry? It only causes pain, and most likely, that anger isn’t going to change the situation for the better. Why be sad? It only reiterates what caused the sadness in the first place, igniting pain and agony. Who wants to sustain that? We’re humans, so naturally, we’re programmed to feel and experience most emotions (unfortunately, some are just sociopaths), but it’s our choice to prolong those emotions, often times creating our own stress and hurt.
My mom once said to me several years ago, “Baby, you don’t ever get stressed. Nothing seems to bother you.” Oh, how SO untrue! Things do bother me, and I do get stressed; I just have a different way of keeping stress at bay than she does. With every stresser, I replace it w/ a positive element or goal. It diverts my mind to a state of tranquility, which is not only good for me but for those around me. Negative energy is contagious and transferable. By changing your attitude, you can help change the world.